The victim-shaming angle
There are crimes. And then there are people who abuse the abused.
A wide range of crimes happen all over the world, from something like pick-pocketing to murder and rapes, the only common strand between all this is the fact that victims are shamed for going through something or being at a particular place or doing/not doing something.
Victim-shaming is basically assaulting the person who has already suffered. Survivors are often asked what, why and when. Victim shaming doesn’t always need to be obvious or direct, it can be simple thought like you could’ve been more careful etc.
Studies show that people find it easier to victim shame than actually stand for the abuser. Victim-shaming minimizes the criminal pact, excludes victim’s narrative and makes people less likely to report a crime.
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Victim-shaming sounds like:
1. People discouraging the victim from speaking about their trauma.
2. Statements like- You just want some attention.
3. Referring to a telling of traumatic experience as a ‘publicity stunt’
4. Trying to discourage victim from posting their experience on social media or from discussing it.
5. Statements like, ‘You’re making a hill out of a mole, and it wasn’t so bad.’
6. Gas-lighting the experience by trying to generalize it.
The antidote to victim-shaming is empathy. Subjecting the victim to harsher opinions or trying to regulate their words or actions, further traumatizes them and it is a situation no one would like to experience.
Silencing the suffering of someone is uncalled for. So next time if someone tries to quell your voice or of someone you know, make sure they hear you loud and clear. Victimizing the victims will only encourage the perpetrators.
If a traumatic experience has become a hindrance in living your life, contact Havoc professionals for guidance and support.
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